Happy Birthday to You! How to Celebrate Your Child

ropriatelyinformation effectively, these elements of a birthday
party can be overwhelming.  By simplifying things and
Planning a birthday party for a child with special needskeeping the party elements to a minimum, you can help
can be a difficult thing to do.  Here are some greatto reduce your child’s anxiety and allow him or
tips to keep in mind when planning so you don’ther to enjoy the party more thoroughly.
overwhelm yourself or your child.  It’s all aboutBe selective when choosing a party time.  As you
keeping things simple and easy!think about when to hold your party, keep in mind your
Over the past few months, a few of my clients havechild’s best time(s) of the day.  Most children
asked “how should we celebrate our child’sare more refreshed, relaxed, and less anxious overall in
birthday, taking into consideration his or her specialthe morning after a good night’s rest.  We
needs.”  This is an important question on manydon’t hear about parties being held in the
levels, since we all want to celebrate special occasionsmorning that often; but for many children with special
with family; however, this can sometimes be too muchneeds, this is their best time of the day.  If you are
for many of our children with special needs.  Here aregoing to have the party on a week night, then be sure
a few ideas and strategies to use so that you canto hold it after the dinner hour.  This provides the child
celebrate your child’s birthday without makingwith an opportunity for some down time in between
the event too overwhelming for the child and yourself!school and the party, and it allows them to have a
Limit the guest list!  All too often, we find ourselveshealthy dinner to re-charge their batteries.
inviting to birthday parties family members whom weDecorate with the minimalist perspective.  Balloons,
generally don’t see very often.  Even though itstreamers, tissue paper, and many other fun
may be uncomfortable for you not to invite them, thinkdecorations are often used for parties.  These types
about how overwhelmed your child may feel if thereof decorations are not a problem for most individuals,
are several people around whom he or she may notbut children with disabilities can become overwhelmed
know.  If you feel the need to invite all of your familyvery easily.  When having a party, there are already
and friends, then split the party up into a couple ofmany factors that will contribute to his or her feelings
different occasions.  By limiting the number of guests,of anxiety, especially changes to the environment. 
you can help to reduce the anxiety and fear ofKeeping decorations to a minimum will help reduce the
uncertainty that your child may be facing.overwhelming feeling and anxiety that many children
Keep it simple!  When we begin to plan afeel at parties.
child’s birthday, it is easy for us to get carriedCelebrating your child’s special day can be a
away with the games, food, treat bags, gifts, andfun and anxiety-free experience.  By keeping the
many other things that go into having a birthdayenvironment calm and using a minimalist perspective,
party.  All of these things are wonderful; but foryou may find that you and your child both can enjoy
children who have a difficult time processingthe occasion.  Happy birthday party planning to you!!!!!