Help Your Child Help Others At Christmas

Whether you celebrate the holidays for their religiousown blessings, through volunteering.
significance, or as a time for the fellowhip of friendsAt an early age, volunteering with your child need not
and family-if you have small children, you know thatbe organized-something as simple as picking up litter in
Santa's visit is definitely the focus of their attention.the park is an expression of care. While your child is
It's not unhealthy, according to most experts, forvery young, and until you're sure she won't put found
children to learn to relate to the season from anobjects in her mouth, you can make a game of it-have
inherently "selfish" point of view. As every parenther "find" litter, and you pick it up.
knows, in early development, kids regard what isAs she grows, your volunteer activities can expand
satisfying-whether it's a hug or a meal-as special, so ifgradually to include direct involvement with others, as
a holiday promises pleasing rewards, then children learnyour daughter learns to grow comfortable with people
that it must be special, too.she hasn't met. For instance, picking an afternoon to
But there's another aspect to childhood developmentmake and deliver homemade Christmas cards to an
that adults are less aware of: the desire of children toelderly neighbor or a nursing home resident, or helping a
comfort others. It can be as blatant as a two-year-olddisabled or elderly neighbor decorate a room for the
being upset when her older sister cries, or as subtle asseason is an easy way to include your child in an
a one-year-old pointing to a cuddle toy, an object thatactivity that's positive, without being intimidating. And
gives him comfort. Well-loved children instinctively wantyour daughter will see that she can brighten someone
everyone around them to feel the same safety andelse's holiday just as she brightens yours.
love that they feel. Parents can nurture and furtherEventually, as your child grows, these volunteer
develop this natural empathy in their children, which canactivities can be expanded beyond the holiday season.
then develop into positive lifelong habits.You may, as a family, prepare a meal, once a month,
You probably noticed that, as your child began to walkfor an invalid, or help out at an animal shelter. Many
and follow you around, she naturally tried to "help" youcities have organizations which can help you choose
with chores or activities. Encouraging this kind ofage-appropriate volunteer activities for you and your
helpfulness with praise and love will help your daughterchild.
understand the value of working together. As sheAnd the benefits extend far beyond childhood. Studies
grows, she'll seek ways to be even more helpful tohave shown that children who engage in volunteer
you and your family.activities with their parents grow to be active
The holiday season just may be the perfect time tovolunteers, themselves.
show her that her desire to help can have benefitsRealizing she's helped others to enjoy the season will
outside the home, as well, and that she can have amake Santa's visit even more special to your daughter.
positive effect on the lives of people outside her family.Realizing you've helped shape a caring, concerned
It's also the perfect time for the whole family toindividual will make every holiday season even more
express concern for others and thankfulness for yourspecial for you.