Three Steps Forward, No Steps Back - Encouraging Children With a Learning Disability

"Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them"trouble. Parents have to be there to pick the child back
(Albert Einstein). For children with learning disabilitiesup and say "keep going, you can do it." All these
going beyond his or her limits occurs on a daily basis; attesting events will make the child stronger and more
least it does for me. I have been diagnosed with aconfident - if the parents let them.
learning disability in reading since I was six years old. IAnother way for parents to increase a child's
was put into special classes to improve my readingconfidence about learning is to get her or him extra
fluency, comprehension, grammar, and spelling where Ihelp with the areas in which he or she struggles. The
was pulled out of the room everyday for 30 minutes. Iextra help could be in the form of a tutor, reading to
would be put into special education classes like thesethem, activity books, or playing learning games.
until I graduated. My high school special educationAnything a parent does for extra help should be
teacher told me that I was different than the rest ofrelated to the child's interests and elevates prior
her students because she didn't have to keepknowledge. If the child sees that his or her parents
motivating me or worrying about me. I thank mycare enough to put effort into them, they are more
parents for that because they did three crucial thingslikely to try and thrive in approving their skills. Children
with me. First, my parents never let me use mydo not want to feel different from their peers, so the
learning disability as a crutch. Second, they got meextra help could help close the gap. As the gap closes,
extra help when I needed it. Last, and perhaps thethe child is more likely to feel a sense of pride in his or
most important, the word "stupid" did not exist in myher work, which is essential in the process of moving
house. These elements are critical to instill in any childforward and overcoming the learning disability.
with a learning disability to help him or her succeed inTo overcome a learning disability, it is essential that the
school.child does not feel they are "stupid." I have heard
Throughout my years in special education I have seenpeople call themselves "stupid" and give up because
many students and their parents use their disability asthey believe there is no possible way they are going to
a crutch. By allowing children to have this crutch, youunderstand what they are learning. A way for parents
are ultimately holding them back. This is because theyto avoid this is by eliminating the word "stupid"
are not going to be able to do well in jobs and collegecompletely out of the person's vocabulary. To me, no
since they have not been challenged enough.one can determine a person is "stupid"; it is all a mental
Challenging children promotes good work habits and agame. Everyone has talent and it shouldn't be taken
personal drive to succeed which colleges andaway because they feel "stupid." Encouraging children
employers are looking for. Once these characteristicswill help them find their talents and overcome the
are established in children, then the learning disability willobstacle of having a learning disability.
not be controlling them: they will control the disability.Obstacles are only obstacles if they are viewed as
Having this sense of control will help children feel bettersuch. Parents must encourage the impossible for their
about themselves and more confident, at least it doeschildren. Great things can happen with a little
for me. The child will not give up as easily if a problemencouragement. I am living proof of this. No one at the
arises because he or she will not want to lose controlbeginning thought I would get where I am now, studying
of their situation and they will instead use it as ato be a teacher. I live by a saying by Walt Disney, "If
motivator. This is a vital mindset for the child to haveyou can dream it, you can do it" and I encourage
because the world is not a bubble and things are goingparents to help their children realize this is true.
to get thrown at them that will cause him or her