Suicide in the Church, Part 3

Suicide strikes...AGAIN!This may wind up being theplacing Jesus Christ on the throne of our lives, spiritually,
most important article some have ever read. I hope itwe become what the Bible calls "born again" and
will not only help a few readers, but that it will open thewe're completely transformed as we renew our
eyes of others, aiding in their understanding, motivatingminds. According to the Scriptures, that same Spirit
them to help. I trust there will be those who will actuallythat raised Jesus from the dead dwells within us, His
clip it, mailing it to someone for whom they arefollowers. Again, this has been my expereince and, I
concerned, or posting it in the breakroom.I've writtencontend, the very answer that someone somewhere
quite a bit about suicide over the past few weeks andis needing. Your reading of this now is no accident.Dust
have received some remarkable feedback. I wrote onoff that old Bible and look up the following verses: John
the subject because there have been so many1:12; II Corinthians 5:17;I Corinthians 2:12; I John
suicides lately and folks wanted answers. If you've5:11-13.Jesus said, "Here I am! I stand at the door and
read any of the previous articles, you've seen someknock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I
frightening statistics. This subject remains heavy on mywill come in and eat with him and he with me"
heart and continues to be a concern to many.(Revelation 3:20). He's knocking right now. Open the
For me, it started when a man with whom a deardoor.Three Keys to Vicorious Living1) Talk to God. We
friend had been interacting was found in his jail cell withcall it "prayer" but it's merely conversation with God.
a cable TV wire around his neck. Then, another friendTWO-WAY conversation at that. So, be quiet and
who led a Bible study took his own life. Within days,listen sometimes.2) Begin reading the Bible. Get to
this was followed by the suicide of another man who,know the Personality of the one who made came up
along with his spouse, had prayed with and comfortedwith all those Precepts for living life with Power. You'll
the previous friend's wife.Saturday, I officiated afind He's the kindest person you'll ever meet. Talk with
wedding 2 hours away. Incredibly, on Sunday, theHim as if He were your best friend.
father of the bride took his own life.My mind is reelingHe IS!3) Make yourself accountable to those who are
as I write.Suicide has a frightening air of finality. Filledliving the Christian life successfully. Like all babies, even
with hopelessness, despair, and tragedy, it's a word webaby Chrsitians should aspire to GROW to maturity. In
like to keep at arms' length. As a whole, society tendsa nutshell, we become that with which we surround
to look down its nose at anyone who would commitourselves. Surround yourselves with godly people and
this gruesome act. We call them selfish, cowardly...Igodly input.What if You're Already a Christian?First, ask
must admit, after seeing that beautiful young bride andyourself if you really ARE a Christian. The word
her dashing husband on Saturday, preparing to begin'Christian' translates as "Little Christs." Galatians 5:22
their lives together, if her father were standing alivetells us what the fruits of the Spirit are, the evidence
before me now, I'd have a hard time refraining fromthat God's Spirit resides in us. Too many people
beating the thunder out of him. How could he do thatbelieve themselves to be Christians simply because
to his precious daughter?But I recall the day, about 15they believe in God. Scripture declares that "even the
years ago, that suicide entered my thoughts in adevil believes, and he trembles." Truth is, unless we
different way. I had just lost my job with a Dallas adspend time with Him, how can we know Him at all?
agency and my wife had left me, taking our kids withWhat relationship works like that? Logically speaking,
her. For the first time in my life, I was all alone on aChurch attendence doesn't make one a Christian any
Thanksgiving, too broke to join any family gatheringsmore than going to McDonald's makes one a
taking place across the country. Our church friendscheeseburger. Besides, Church is something we ARE
had quickly chosen sides and had shunned yours truly.24/7 (meaning: "the called out ones"); it's not merely
It was Thanksgiving Eve, sleeting and raining, about 16someplace we GO.To those who DO have a
below zero with the wind chill. I was sleeping on arelationship with God, the enemy of our souls can
mattress on the floor of a mobile home, my entirecause any of us to feel depressed and have suicidal
world seemingly in shambles all around me. I rememberthoughts in a moment of weakness. So might a
waking up to the whirring sound of ball bearings rollingchemical imbalance. It can happen for all of the same
around in the furnace which was now spewing forthreasons mentioned above. The trials of life touch
cold air. I was dizzy, disoriented, freezing to death ineveryone, including Believers in Jesus.If the situation
my sleep, I believe. Taking my own life with the razoryou are in is something you can't change, know that
sharp meat clever in the kitchen was the most naturalGod's the Inventor of Divine Intervention. As hard as it
thought in the world to me. I formulated a plan to slitmay be to do, continue praying for His help and covet
my wrists, crawl back onto my mattress, and let themthe prayers of other victorious Christians. Don't stop.
find me in the spring. Truly, I was experiencing theHe does hear our prayers, but His perfect plan and
darkest hour of my soul.But God stepped in. Theours aren't always the same. Trust Him to respond in
atmosphere became charged as it does when a friskya way that will be to your best interest. That includes
puppy runs into a room or a bunch of children runthe possibility that He will give you strength and peace
through an open screen door to get a drink from theto endure your trial rather than deliver you from it. He's
kitchen sink on a hot summer day. "Joy will come in theso much more concerned about our character than
morning" suddenly echoed through my mind. I bundledour comfort. His number one goal is to conform us to
up and made it through the night, only to be awakenedthe image of Christ who, Scripture tells us, was Himself
next day by a startling crash as a sheet of ice meltedsent by the Holy Spirit into the wilderness to be
and slid off the metal roof onto the frozen ground. Itempted by the devil (Jesus is truly our example in
looked outside and the sun was glistening off theEVERY way). Some of God's greatest answers to
melting ice everywhere.Life got gradually better.prayer come in the form of peace and joy in the midst
Incredibly better. Today, I wouldn't trade mine for all theof great hardship. You can believe that He will see you
world.Truth is, I discovered another option to suicide. Ithrough every storm in your life.Along those lines, take
found it in the Bible, God's love letter to mankind. Youa look at these verses: Psalm 23; Psalm 28:7; Isaiah
know...that perennially best-selling book most Christians43:2; Romans 8:28; Philippians 4:13.We are spirit-beings
rarely read? The good news about the current statehaving an earthly experience. As such, you must ask
of depression some may be feeling at this moment, isGod to fill you with His Spirit to help you tackle life by
that God really DOES have a plan for your life - a planHis power. Scripture declares, "You will receive power
that can only be fulfilled when we give everything overwhen the Holy Spirit comes upon you." The Bible is full
to Him. Listen, there IS a purpose for your life; a reasonof God's promises to love, strengthen, heal, and
for your existence. Your current, dismal, emotional andguide.The Purpose-Driven Life is a Top-Selling book
spiritual state may be the very springboard you needthese days. Begin reading God's Word in a
for discovering just how valuable you are to Him, howPurpose-Driven manner: to discover new insights about
your life can be transformed, and how others can beHis love for you. Ask the Holy Spirit to guide your
rescued by YOU.journey and to reveal truths you've never seen before.
Tough times do NOT last. Tough people DO!PerhapsHe's the consummate teacher, after all. Accept the
you've asked yourself, "How did I get to this point?"fact of God's love for you by faith, NOT by
The answer? Gradually, just as drops of water willfeelings.Look at these verses and receive them from
slowly but surley fill a bucket. Everyone goes throughGod directly to you: John 3:16; Romans 5:8; Isaiah 40:31;
periods in their lives when they feel down. In time,Isaiah 41:10; Lamentations 3:22-23.Today's culture
sadness leaves and life goes on. There are instances,detests any mention of this word, but here goes: SIN. If
however, when tough times, a strained relationship oryou want to walk in victory, acknowledge any sin that
some other problem, leads to unhappiness that keepsmight be interfering in your relationship with God. Ask
us in bondage. When that happens, life can become aHim to search your heart and pinpoint any problems.
daily struggle with uneasiness, gloom, and emptiness.Then, confess and repent of your disobedience and
Ultimately, hopelessness can take hold, creating areceive his forgiveness. Confess means "to agree"
feeling of dissatisfaction with everything.Depression isand repent means "to change your mind."Here are
often associated with a sense of loss that can comesome verses for dealing with sin: I John 1:9; Psalm
with illness, the death of a loved one, sudden139:23-24; Galatians 5:16-25.Help Yourself to some
unemployment, divorce, and so on. A chronic illness, orhelp!As part of the Body of Christ, you may wish to
permanent disability, can rob one's independence,consult help from other Body Parts. Professional help in
making them feel worthless, helpless, and angry. Losingthe form of a qualified Christian counselor has proven
someone you care about, through death or divorce,to be one of the best ways to fight depression and
can leave a tremendous void.Guilt is another trigger forthoughts of suicide. Look in the phone book and make
depression. Perhaps you're struggling with substancesome calls. Ask for references. A good pastoral
abuse or another addiction or have made some reallycounselor can help you get a new perspective on your
bad choices that you're ashamed of that are about toproblems. Get a medical check-up. Sometimes
be revealed. A childhood trauma may have left youdepression is caused by a chemical imbalance or other
feeling damaged and unworthy of God's love andbiological factor.Seek out a support group made of
acceptance. Maybe you feel like a failure because youlike-minded believers that can minister to the area of
haven't achieved all that you wanted in life.Whateverdifficulty in your life. Interacting with others who are
the cause, depression often leads to a sense offacing similar challenges will help you feel less
hopelessness. You may feel as though you're at theisolated.Force yourself to do something the next time
end of your rope. You may think that ending your life isyou feel down. Inactivity only makes depression worse.
the only way to take control.Trust me, it's not.What'sHere are some things to try:Talk it out. Call a friend and
next?open up.Take a hike. Exercise causes blood and
The answer is simple. REALLY simple. You can gooxygen to circulate faster, which invigorates us. The
on with life as usual, knowing where that may lead, orbrain produces endorphins that fight depression.Help
you can get a life. I'm talkin' REAL life. For some, thesomeone else. As you focus your attention on
fact that you're still reading this shows that you desiresomeone else, your own cares will become less
another option. So, here's my answer. Ready? It's myburdensome. I often refer people to watch "Patch
experience that there is only one real source of hopeAdams" with Robin Williams, then report to me on their
for a life of purpose, fulfillment, and joy.That sourcefindings. Don't judge me on that; lives have been saved.
has a name...it's Jesus Christ.It is my firm contentionGod can use anything.Listen to uplifting music. Choose
that Jesus is the answer to every problem known toyour favorite songs and start jammin'!Here's the good
mankind. To those who are still with me, that's eithernews: Whatever you're struggling with at the moment,
absolute truth or it's a lie. He said about His followers, "Ithis too shall pass. Whatever it is you're going through,
have come that they may have life, and have it to theyou WILL go through it. Though things may actually get
full" (John 10:10). If that statement is true, logic screamsworse before they get better, they WILL get better as
for us to quickly become His followers. We mustyou place them in God's hands. Yes, we reap as we
address the question, "If I'm not living real life, what issow and there may be some really tough
THIS?" Through a REAL, experiential relationship withconsequences forthcoming to deal with.
Jesus Christ, overflowing love, forgiveness, peace, andBut whatever you do, deal with it!Remember, "All
joy can be ours. Interested? That's a promise fromthings work together for good for those who love God
God found in the Bible.And God doesn't lie.Sadly, farand have been called according to His purpose."
too often, even Christians settle for Religion andTranslation? God takes care of the lives of those who
Church attendance over a relationship with the Creatorturn their lives over to Him.Resist any thoughts you
through Christ's teachings found in Scripture.Themay be having about "ending it all." God has the
How-to's of OvercomingI failed to mention that all theuncanny ability of taking that which seems really bad
recent local suicides have been committed byand making things turn out really good.If you'd like to
professing Christians. Did Jesus promise His followerssubscribe and receive more of pastor Michael's articles
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