Why Some People Are Ready To Date Before Others

Everyone is ready to start dating at a different age.Because the early developing girl is tall for her age, it is
There is no golden age, it's a personal choice that'shard for her to find a boy taller than she is and still
weighted on certain factors such as maturity,within the range of those considered datable by her
experience with the opposite sex and life experience.family. Parents often object to a girl's dating older boys,
If a person's getting a slow start, it's a good idea tofor they know that although she looks grown-up, she
investigate the reason why a particular individual isactually is too inexperienced.
slow to get started dating. Is he shy and bashful? ThenTo handle the complicated situations that might arise
maybe he needs encouragement in getting socialwith an older fellow. Yet the boys of her own age are
experience; maybe he or she needs to be drawn intostill "little guys" both literally and socially. So the early
a group activity as a starter.maturing girl is expected to "freeze" where she is until
Is the person an outsider because of interests andothers of her age catch up with her.
dreams that are not shared by his contemporaries?The fact is that at junior high school age, girls are taller
Then he needs further to develop his uniquethan the majority of boys. Lamentably, at dancing
personality, confident that congenial companions will beclasses , group dates, or boy-girl parties, the tall girl
available beyond high school or even college.who is big for her age is avoided by shorter fellows.
Some young people have been so hurt in the processSo she, more ready to date than most, is more
of growing up that they may need special help tofrequently delayed in the very social experiences, such
straighten out. They must be made to realize that theyas dancing lesions, that would ready her for dating
have within them the potentialities of becomingwhen it finally does come. This problem is accentuated
wholesome, happy persons. Special counselors,in our country because exaggerated emphasis is put
psychological services, and guidance facilities, can helpon the importance of a boy being taller than a girl.
this kind of unhappy young person; and those who areThere are many particularly well-adjusted girls who
concerned with his happiness should be carefully guideweather this handicap quite nicely. They become
him in that direction.natural leaders to whom other girls and boys turn.
What about those that are too ready to date?They take the initiative in social affairs and help others
Frequently girls are ready for dates long before othershave a good time. Buy the time pairing off begins, and
of their age and grade are. These are the girls whothe fellows are beginning to shoot up in height, such
grow up fast, and before they're out of grade schoolearly maturing girls come into their own time developed
are taller or more physically mature than others in theirsome special skills in group activities, such as running a
class. They become interested in boys at a time whenparty or playing a musical instrument, or have found
fellows their own age are not even aware that girlsthemselves a place in sports or drama.
exist, in a special personal sense.