| Have you ever wanted to encourage someone
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| | what they are going through.
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| living with a chronic illness, but it
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| | Besides not knowing what to say, we often
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| seems like you never know what to say?
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| | do not know what to do. We often wish we
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| Moreover, when you finally think of
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| | could do something to help, but do not
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| something you just know will make them
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| | even know where to start. Our own lives
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| smile, do they snap back at you with
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| | can be so overwhelming and busy that we
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| frustration? Well, you are not alone.
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| | could never fathom having the time to run
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| Because we truly want to help our friend
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| | errands, do chores and help clean someone
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| or family member with a chronic
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| | else's home too! Nevertheless, what we
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| condition, we often try to think of just
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| | fail to realize is that what might seem
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| the right words we can say to make all of
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| | like an insignificant effort to us, may
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| the pain vanish from their life. If we
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| | save our loved one an entire day or even
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| can just "fix it" then we will not have
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| | week's worth of energy. For example, we
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| to see them suffer anymore.
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| | can pick up a few things at the store
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| Unfortunately, when we do try to come up
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| | while we are already there and take out
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| with a quick answer, we often end up
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| | the trash when we drop them off. We can
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| saying something that seems to irritate
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| | drop them by some fresh flowers, deliver
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| or offend our loved one.
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| | a meal, bring over a video to share or
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| It is difficult to understand why they
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| | pick up their dry cleaning. None of these
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| got upset, because to us what we had to
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| | takes much of our time, but it can make a
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| say should have been helpful.
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| | world of difference to them! In all, we
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| Nonetheless, if we could simply jump into
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| | can never fully comprehend what it is
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| the life of our loved one, then we would
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| | like to have a chronic condition, with
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| see why our well-meaning comments were
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| | all of the loss and pain it poses. Yet,
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| not so well-received. Often, it is our
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| | we know we would not want to feel this
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| intention to help them "see the bright
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| | way ourselves, so surely we can see what
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| side" of their situation, so they can
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| | courage our loved one displays! We can
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| realize it is not that bad. The problem
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| | even try to remember what it is like to
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| is that we have then failed to
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| | have to put our lives on hold for even
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| acknowledge their battle is very real and
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| | just a few days and tell our loved ones
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| we have gone on to minimize its impact.
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| | how amazed we are at their strength and
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| Sometimes we even try to point out
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| | perseverance! People living with chronic
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| another person who is worse off or try to
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| | illness/pain would never choose to
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| relate by saying, "Ya, I am tired too."
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| | willingly give up activities they used to
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| Often, we disregard their limitations by
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| | enjoy! In fact, they would do just about
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| attempting to talk them into doing what
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| | anything to get their lives back!
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| they know they cannot or should not do.
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| | Therefore, we can rest assured, knowing
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| Because we forget how anguishing is it to
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| | they will keep fighting, researching and
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| be ill and laid up, sometimes we even try
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| | pursuing ways to regain their lives or at
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| to tell them "how lucky" they are to not
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| | least prevent further progression of the
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| have to work or clean their house.
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| | disease.
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| What's more, we cannot resist acting as
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| | Yes, acknowledging what is happening to a
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| if solving the problem is so simple when
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| | loved one means having to deal with all
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| we exclaim, "why can't you just take this
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| | of its pain, mourning and changes, but do
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| or do that?" Likewise, we want so badly
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| | not sell yourself short! After all, if
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| for them to be feeling better, that we
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| | they are forced to live with it, we can
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| refuse to hear the truth and do not allow
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| | certainly choose to live next to it!
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| them to be open and honest with us about
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